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Manners Makeover

 

If you feel like you have put learning basic table manners and social edicate aside, don’t worry! At Delphi Academy of Boston, we are always building character and practicing excellent manners. Here are just a few tips from the pros over here. Kids are clever and with a little bit of constant encouragement  they will catch on to the importance of manners. Make learning about manners fun and talk with your child about why they think manners might be important and which ones make the most sense to them.

 

Step 1. Teaching your kids how to set the table

Holidays mean big family meals – which means you and your kiddos will be sitting at a table.  Let your kids practice setting the table a few times. Fork on the left, knife and spoon on the right with cups on the top right. While this may seem silly, it’s often forgotten! Include kids in creating table decorations so they get to enjoy making arts-n-crafts. Run through the basics – washing up before dinner, placing napkin on lap before eating, waiting for everyone to be served before you start eating and saying “please” and “thank you”. Practice, practice, practice!

 

Step 2. Table Conversation

A complete meal is one that impresses the taste buds, looks beautiful and is full of quality conversation. Remind your children to talk to people on their left and right, along with whoever is seated across from them. Practice asking questions that are engaging and don’t have simple “yes” or “no” answers.Chewing with their mouths open is a definite “no-no”. If you’re struggling with your child thinking it’s something silly to do, show them yourself so they can see how it looks (yes it seems silly, but it really works!). 

 

Step 3. Consideration

Young kids often forget that parents and grandparents get enjoyment from spending time together, not just from material gifts. A great skill to learn is knowing how to be considerate, kind and helpful. You can create a list of “special gifts” they are interested in giving out to certain people. For example, a special gift could be helping grandma clear the table after dinner or asking mom if they can help set up decorations before guests arrive.

 

Step 4. Social Greetings

Kids might feel nervous being surrounded by a large group of people, whom they might not see frequently. Practice greeting people with a smile and “hello” to build their confidence. Social skills will benefit your child for their whole life so it is important to build a solid foundation while they are young. While they are not expected to shake everyone’s hand, teaching them how to be pleasant and speak clearly is a great start! Practicing with family is a great way to boost their social confidence.

 

Step 5. Gift giving and receiving

Gifts are a huge excitement to kids, and often one of their favorite parts of holidays! When giving gifts remind them to hand it directly to the person and say something along the lines of “I hope you like it!” or “I thought of you when I saw this!”. When receiving gifts, saying “thank you” and being grateful is a must. While some gifts may seem a little silly, a relative thought it would be something that brought joy into their lives.

Here are a few “tips” from Delphi students about how to have good manners during the holidays

“Give compliments when people show up.”

“Greet people with smiles.”

“Eat with utensils if necessary.”

“Be kind to friends and family.”

“Do not fight with each other.”

“When you are at the table eat with your mouth closed.”

“Be grateful for what you have.”

“Acknowledge people because it shows respect and can make people feel important.”

“Don’t eat with your eyes.”

“Share with others because then they will feel loved.”

Approach these steps with a positive and fun learning atmosphere to prepare you and your children for the upcoming holidays. They will know what is expected of them and you will be able to sit at ease while the kiddos show off their newly learned table manners. They will know what to expect from guests making them feel more at ease and confident. And remember, you are your child’s first and most important teacher. He or she will mimic and learn from you, so keep in mind they are always looking to your actions for how to act towards others.


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